How I Deal With Stress In Every Day Life
I used to be the absolute biggest worry wart. I would worry myself sick. I remember watching my mom worry herself to death about things when I was little. I guess that’s probably where I picked it up from. I used to think if I thought about it all the time I would find a solution to whatever the stress was about. This theory was absolute crap.
Stressing about things does not help anything. It just makes you ill. There are countless studies on how stress causes cancer here. I can remember so many times feeling sick after being stressed out about something for a while. Now I know why. So I put a few things down that I do when I feel like something might cause me stress.
WRITE IT OUT
For me, writing has always been a great way to get my thoughts together. It’s no wonder I became a writer. For me just putting a simple pen to paper really helps me grab all those swirling thoughts and line them up to actually form a real solution. If I just think about it but I don’t actually write it down, it just causes me stress. There is just something about actually seeing it on paper in order that helps me. Sometimes I’ll just write down some major bullet points or sometimes I’ll write out a whole journal entry.
PHONE A FRIEND
Another great thing I like to do is to call a close friend I trust and talk to them about it. Most stress is centered around very vulnerable topics so it has to be someone I’m close to. Someone whose opinion I trust and who will truly listen and care. I have found that simply just putting it out there and having a nice chat about it can help to defuse it. I don’t hold back either. This sometimes can take vulnerability depending on the subject but its the best feeling in the world when you have released the hold it has on you, by simply talking about it. Trust me I’m speaking from experience, holding it in and keeping it secret is the absolute worst thing you can do for yourself.
"It's not stress that kills us. It's our reaction to it."
TRY TO REFOCUS
Our minds choose what they focus on based on us. So if you spent the day worried about your stressful situation then you chose to do so. Sorry, but when it comes to thoughts we have no one to blame but ourselves. So I like to grab those thoughts and refocus them. I personally love to refocus my stressful thoughts on things I can control and things I’m grateful for. Mainly because it makes me feel good. I think happy thoughts are the best medicine for stress. Did you know it humanly impossible to think a negative thought while you think a positive one? So try it. Refocus your thoughts on something you can control that is positive. Try to do this every time you feel overwhelmed with stressful thoughts. You will feel an immediate reaction. You may even see the good in a bad situation.
GET YOUR “ZEN” ON
If I’ve reached a point where I’ve tried all of this and I still can’t seem to shake the stressful thoughts then my “go-to” is to head to a yoga class. I prefer to take a vinyasa class if I’m going for the purpose of relieving stress. Because for me, I need to distract myself and a mellow Yin class will be too slow and not engage my mind enough to distract me. Sometimes when dealing with stress, that’s the thing we need the most, distraction. A challenging yoga class will help distract you and at the same time help clear your mind through focusing on the teacher’s instruction, the challenge of the postures, and the deep breath work. I swear since I started taking yoga my stress level is at an all-time low.
This is my favorite place to do yoga.