How I turned a negative into a positive.

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September 4, 2020


I’ve always been a very sensitive person. I’ve been told at first glance I come across very strong and unshakable but truth be told I’m a softy thru and thru. I remember when I was younger I hated that I was so sensitive. I didn’t have the most compassionate mother growing up and being sensitive just made life a bit harder.

But as I got older I learned that my sensitivity was what connected me to people in a very special way almost immediately. Over time I learned that around certain people this trait wouldn’t be beneficial but around people who needed someone to feel what they felt, I was the perfect person for the job. 

How I turned a negative into a positive.

This all being said a few weeks ago my sensitive demeanor did not work in my favor. Someone close to me said something hurtful that took me down at the knees. I’m sure we’ve all been there. Humans aren’t perfect and sometimes we say things that are out of line or without consideration and that’s what happened here. I’m not gonna lie, it hurt to hear what this person said, and at that moment I wanted to shut my social media down for good and just stop posting and believe them and their negative opinions. So I paused my account and decided to take some time to regroup and make my own decision on the topic. I realized if I was so rattled by this person’s comment there was definitely something deeper within me that needed to be addressed.

 

How I turned a negative into a positive.
How I turned a negative into a positive.

I realized many things this week while I took this pause. The first thing I realized was I needed a healthy dose of humility. Sometimes where we find ourselves being the most sensitive is in the areas in which we are most wounded or insecure. Where we had the most need to overcome your fears. This had definitely happened to me in this instance. So I set my ego and emotions aside and really thought about the comment. I saw some possible truth and logic in it but only if I gave up because my ego was bruised. So, I took a few days to refamiliarize myself with my drive and determination and re-engage it. Because remember, we are always in the driver’s seat of our life. At any given moment we can change course, no matter what anyone says.

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The second thing I realized was that sometimes harsh comments can truly inspire you if you choose to use it as fuel. Which is exactly what I did. I spent a week forming my own opinions, instead of letting someone dictate or affect my future with their negative opinions. It’s much easier said than done to not care what others think (especially when they are someone close or that you admire) but this is essential to pursuing a passion and staying on the path that’s meant for you. Because no matter the person, no matter the circumstance in which you find yourself, no one is in charge of your path. That is yours and yours alone to make. So you know what I did? I took this hurtful experience and made it into rocket fuel and I’ve never been more inspired. All I needed was to remember that sometimes a harsh comment can be the very thing you need to remind you that you may be sensitive but you are still strong as hell.

"FIND YOUR FUEL".

- ryan starr

Have you ever turned a harsh comment into motivation?

Share your story in the comments below, I’d love to hear and keep the inspiring stories going. 

-Ryan

How I turned a negative into a positive.

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