Why age really isn’t anything but a number
When I was a little girl I was told I liked like most unusual music for a child my age. I liked old jazz and blues singers like Billy Holiday, Otis Redding and Nat King Cole. While every other kid was listening to Britney and Nsync. I just liked what I liked I guess and I didn’t care why. I liked learning about the world
and spent a great deal of time with my grandparents talking with them about life before I existed instead of playing at the arcade or going to the mall with the girls. I was def not the typical child in terms of my interest. I always remember People calling me an “old soul”.
I never really understood what that term “old soul” meant or why they called me that because for me I’d always just simply done the things I found interesting. Sort of like how a moth goes to a flame, I was just drawn to learning about history the second I found out we as a world had a past. I’m still the same way now as a woman and I don’t think I could change this if I tried. Not that I ever would. But now as I get older I see people being very strange about what is “acceptable” to do in your 20s versus your 70s and I don’t get it. I feel like so much of the world is focused on appearances and I guess I can understand why. I know we all want to put our best foot forward and make a good impression and feel good about ourselves. But when did the social norm become so judgemental when it comes to age?
The thing is when I was a child did I care that the things I loved were what society says are the interests of a much older woman? No. I liked what I liked. But if an older women shows an interest in the activities of a younger age group its frowned upon. I don’t mean grandparents should be at sorority parties doing shots or anything but I mean why do older people in their 60s have to feel as if they can’t be into hip modern music or dress young and flirty still? I hear so many people placing judgments on everyone due to age. She’s too old to wear that dress or he’s too old to like that band. People can set records and start new sports at any age, yet most people don’t believe they can. It’s so sad. I wish instead people would say “I am happy for them because they are happy and healthy”.
Some guy said to me: "Don't you think you're too old to sing rock n' roll"? I said: "You'd better check with Mick Jagger.”
Why must we always find a new way to judge or limit one another? Instead, I wish we would just live and let live. (This also means we should stop comparing ourselves to others.) If you’re 80 and wanna start listening to electronic music people shouldn’t judge. They should support you wanting to stay connected to the music of a newer generation. If you’re 16 and you wanna read war and peace instead of ditching school I say go right ahead. Whatever brings you joy at whatever age you are. I say do it.
To me, age has just become another box we put ourselves in. I, of course, have a birthday and it means a lot to me but not because it dictates my existence but instead because it was the day I got to start enjoying this beautiful Earth. My birthday will never define what I do, who I hang with, what I wear or what I listen to? I swear to you I will be 80 and I’ll still have close 2o-year-old friends, eat street tacos on curbs, and dance in the rain for as long as my body will allow me. But above all, I will cherish everyone around me and never look at them with limitations based on a date on a calendar. personally, I refuse to acknowledge this box.
I’d love to hear from you guys about some things you feel make you WHO you are instead of what age you are.