Why you should stop comparing yourself to others.
My first taste of comparison
I can remember when I was in high school and running track I’d always compare myself to my best friend who was faster than me. She had this natural gift of speed. She actually didn’t even know it till I asked her to join the track team with me and then she kicked everyone’s butts the first day, including mine. For me, I had to work so hard just to get a second place and for her, she didn’t even need to practice as she always won first place. I think this was the first time I really compared myself to someone, I was 11.
I look back now and I realize that I started caring less about pushing myself during track practice or meets. I started telling myself things like “I’ll never be naturally gifted like Michelle” or “who cares about first place I already know she will get it, she always does”. I had compared myself to her and accepted defeat without having even tried. Looking back that was the absolute worst thing I could have done. But I was 11, I didn’t know then what I know now. (God if only)
Fast forward to present day. Now we have social media. Oh my goodness, what a monster of comparison that is for most of us. People posting their well-manicured selfies, Epic travel adventures, and perfect relationship moments. I mean come on its nearly impossible not to compare yourself. I’ve definitely been guilty of this many times in my past.
You see the thing is, no one always stays the richest person in the world or the most beautiful. And no one stays the smartest or the most popular. The spot for the “top” is always up for grabs. It’s ever-changing. So telling yourself you can’t do something because someone else has that spot is just not logical. I know because I used to tell myself that exact same thing.
If we all keep comparing what we have to others (especially on social media) we will never be satisfied. Because we only live one life, our own. No matter how much you try to compare yourself to someone else, all you will ever be is “like” them. You can never “be” them. That’s just humanly impossible. So you will never be satisfied and, who wants to live like that, right?
I look at what others do now simply as inspiration. So often we look at other peoples’ seemingly amazing lives on places like Instagram or Facebook and we think its so unattainable. Well, I have some bad news for you, it is! It is 100% impossible. You can never be someone else, you will always be you. Once I realized this fact I never saw a reason to compare myself to someone else again. I realized that I will never be them and more/most importantly now I don’t want to be them. I like me. The most ironic part that no one tells you is the second you stop comparing yourself to others, you are then able to fall more in love with your own life.
So, even if I’m not the fastest runner on the track team. I’m the one who helped my best friend discover she was a gifted athlete, it’s all about perspective. Do you compare yourself or do you get inspired by others? Before I simply didn’t appreciate the fact that we are all humans on our own unique, individual, beautiful path and my path is just as epic as anyone else’s and it can change as I want it to.